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Sex Ed: "It's not all about you and what your dick's doing"

experts interview sex Dec 07, 2020

Let's talk about sex.

Specifically, we talk about sex with Nicole Ananda, Founder & Managing Partner, Ananda Integrative Healing Group. To hear the entire can't miss interview, check out the Divorced Dad Playbook Podcast.

In this excerpt, we discuss the overinflated significance of "getting off" instead of focusing on the entire experience as one of pleasure.

On how to deal with what she calls "negative sexual experiences," Ananda and her team work to help clients overcome that anxiety. How can men with negative sexual experiences feel more comfortable and confident?

"They kind of had something go the way they didn't want it to go and they've been shamed for it. Either their partner has taken it personally, like it meant something about them or they weren't desirable — "you don't want me enough" — or just kind of put them down for it. That is so damaging. That will just shut somebody down."

"A lot of what we help them work through is just, 'hey this happens and, look, we're all fine. We can still have fun together. We can still enjoy ourselves. It's not all about you and what your dick's doing."


In this clip, we discuss the importance of two people coming together to feel connection and pleasure, NOT about performance.

"People get so caught up in, 'what's going to happen next? Am I doing it right or wrong? What is my dick going to do? Am I going to cum, are they going to cum?'"

Yeah. We go there. And, pardon the pun, even deeper.

Ananda is a Certified Surrogate Partner, Certified Life Coach, Certified Reiki Master, Certified Shamanic Practitioner, Certified IET Practitioner, Tantra Practitioner and Dan's personal Shaman.

Learn more about Nicole and her business at http://www.anandaintegrativehealing.com

 

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